Flirting Tips: How NOT To Use Eye Contact
The other day I was with my husband at the pub, and saw a great example of how NOT to use body language to flirt.
My husband was on the dance floor, and I was walking through to join him.
Before I reached him though, I noticed a young girl that had her eye on him.
Now- I don't mind that (I trust my husband), but what I saw next amazed me!
She walked right up to him (About a foot in front of his face). She slowly looked over his whole body and then she stared right at him, for about a minute! Talk about aggressive flirting!
Now- she was doing one thing right- eye contact is an important part of flirting.
But she was doing two things wrong- which totally ruined the effect.
Firstly- she maintained eye contact way too long. She should have looked away a few times. Blinking wouldn't have hurt as well!
But the second thing she did wrong was even worse! The whole time she was doing this little flirting "performance", she didn't smile once!
Not a single time!
My husband then turned away from her, and the girl walked away unhappily.
The first thing he did when he saw me was tell me about the whole thing (See, I told you I can trust him!)
I asked him the effect the body language had on him. He said it was almost intimidating, and that her body language made her seem like a predator, on the prowl for a man.
Now- was this the effect the girl wanted? Possibly... but probably not. I doubt she wants to scare men off- but that's exactly what she is doing.
Make sure you don't make the same mistake!
Look... I'm not saying eye contact isn't important- It is! But make sure you smile a little as well! It makes all the difference! And don't forget to look away occasionally!
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